I’m placing the answer to a video called ‘Desteni aren’t your friends’ here, in which it is said that we proclaimed to stand for everyone, but our tolerance was in fact in short supply and we thought we needn’t justify the focus on our endeavors; also a list of banned people is placed implying some kind of ‘dissatisfaction’ with this circumstance.
Well, here is the response:
‘Desteni aren't your Friends’
This is an interesting title, because, in fact, if you were to be looking for friendship in the regular sense of the word, Desteni would not be the place to go looking for it.
Why?
First, what do you do when you are looking for friendship? What is your starting point?
Most of the times you would be seeking approval of some kind. Some kind of validation.
Someone to give you credit for how you are as a personality, what you think, what a great individual you are.
This, we don’t do.
We have come to realize that personality and individuality are based on concepts of self.
It is what we as the mind have accepted as knowledge on who we are, who we want to be. On how we can best survive in this world. We base this on ideas and projections onto others.
Desteni has realized that we are living ourselves as the mind totally.
The individual has lost touch with reality as a whole as who we are – the entirety of existence.
There is only self-interest.
Desteni, as a group, has established themselves on the universal principle of equality and oneness, which is the foundation on which we base our communication and support.
Thus we will not cater to your ego, as ‘friends’ normally do. If you really have a look at it:
‘Friends’ have an idea of you and want to keep you within these limitations because they don’t want to lose you. They are your friends because these ideas of you are in such affinity to how they perceive themselves. And they don’t want to be alone in this perception. Self-perceptions need to be fed, to be validated.
They do not actually support you, they support their own personality, which is not real either. It’s a pile of constructed information, experience, memories, feelings and emotions. Nothing that has anything in common with Life, with substance, with stability, with what is actually here as and within existence in its entirety. An energetic overlay.
So, indeed: Desteni are not your friends.
However, if you are willing to support yourself for real, to become real, to face what you’ve accepted and allowed, you will get the unconditional support you have always hoped for in a friend. This point of self-will has to be established within and as you, of directing yourself toward ‘becoming real’ as Self, as the whole, on the principle of oneness and equality. It is pre-condition for the support, because only in and as this starting point you are open to the support that is abundantly available on the forums.
So the purpose of the forums is not ‘standing for everyone’ and tolerating someone’s refusal to stand for and as themselves as equal and one, but ‘standing as everyone as equal and one’ if and when the desteni tools are walked in self-application.
As soon as it becomes evident that the starting point of being on the forum is not based upon a realization that we are the creators of this reality and thus based in self-responsibiltiy, a ban is placed as support – though this need not be the final word, if you forgive yourself. start over and be a real friend to yourself first.
You must trust yourself enough and dare to jump, dare to leave the illusions of the mind behind and be Here within and as Life as one and equal as all as you. Be Here as the entirety of existence that is you.
and do the desteni-I-process --- for information go to the site: http://desteniiprocess.com
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